To me, patience is what's required for long suffering, whether purposeful or not. You have to wait something out. According to a couple online definitions, patience is
- the bearing of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain, without complaint, loss of temper, irritation, or the like
- the state of endurance under difficult circumstances, which can mean persevering in the face of delay or provocation without acting on annoyance/anger in a negative way; or exhibiting forbearance when under strain, especially when faced with longer-term difficulties. Patience is the level of endurance one can take before negativity.
|Talking my son back from a meltdown, circa 2003|
The summer gives us an opportunity as caregivers to make some of the pieces fit. If your child on the spectrum has never had a functional behavior assessment, consider reading up a bit on what one is and then trying your hand, over long periods of observation, trial, error, and do-overs, at piecing one together. This tool and method of thinking, more than any other, has helped me realize that parenting with understanding is better for me and my kiddos than parenting with patience alone.
And your child's educational team will SO appreciate the effort when you present them the compilation in the fall!
Finally, and not as punctuation, THANK YOU to the families who've given up their loved ones for service to our country. Memorial Day is a day dedicated to you, and those of us raising children under the banner your fathers and mothers and daughters and sons and spouses fought and died for so appreciate the sacrifices you have made, and continue to make.